Thursday, December 8, 2011

Disappointment VS. Anger

I think a child takes you being disappointed in them harder then if you get mad and yell and scream at them.  Growing up I tried my best not to disappoint my parents.  If  my parents got mad and yelled it was not as big of a deal to me. Even as an adult I don't like to disappoint people.

The ironic thing is the last couple of times Blake has done something wrong and we didn't know about it we would tell him how proud we are of him and tell him the reasons.  Then we would find out what happened and he would hang his head in shame and tell us how bad he felt because we trusted him.

We have been fortunate because Blake hasn't been one of those kids that got in trouble very often. He typically had his head screwed on right.  In my opinion if he didn't mess up he wouldn't be normal.  We all mess up.  I don't care how old or young you are.  We make mistakes and hopefully we learn from them.  If you don't learn from your mistakes you will keep repeating them. THANK GOD Blake is one of those people that normally will listen and take heed of what was said.  I said normally.  He is human and young. 

I think the best thing we can do as parents no matter what age is to listen to what they have to say.  TRY to stay calm.  Explain why you are upset.  If they mess up and get a ticket or get in an accident  or whatever make them pay for it.  It makes more of an impression then if a parent bails them out of trouble all of the time. Find out if they they learned anything from the mistake they made.  They need to learn to take responsibility for their actions.  The younger they learn this the better off they will be. Above all make sure they know that you still love them and they yes you are disappointed in them but trust them.  Granted sometimes the trust has to be rebuilt overtime.

Hope you have a wonderful Thursday.



Nolita said...
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Nolita said...

Amen on the taking responsibility thing. We can't protect them from consequences but we can always love them!